For this week’s blog post and probably the next few I’m going to be talking about gender, gender roles, societal norms and clearing up some assumptions that I feel may have been made about me. For this weeks post I will try to limit it to explaining about myself and not my opinions on society, I shall save that for future posts, if you’re interested in my opinions.
So we’ve all heard of LGBT and probably LGBTQ+ which is actually short for LGBTTTQQIAA, as it includes; lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, two-spirited, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual, agender, gender queer, bigender, gender variant, and pangender and many others (the terminology is expanding all the time).
So our society is very much a binary society, you have men and women and that’s it. Men are expected to do manly things and women behave like women. Boys are raised to play sports, build things and have aspirations and girls are raised to play with dolls and make themselves look pretty and care for things and variation from this is seen as odd. (I know things are slowly starting to change but many still hold these views.) So I consider myself to be Non-binary, I do not fit into either category, I feel I am some where in between maybe somewhere closer female than male. As long as I can remember I’ve drawn to more feminine things, I remember on none uniform days at infant school being jealous of the some of the girl’s outfits. Once in Shoe Fare as a really young kid I remember begging for a pair of shoes that were popular at the time but I wasn’t allowed them, they were for girls. I think after that I kind of steered clear of feminine things till I was much older, it was always there but I tried to fit is as a regular male, I even remember trying as hard as possible to make my voice deep and manly. It didn’t work trying to be normal and by the end of secondary school I was self harming. When I got to college I started to explore my feminine side but I made some mistakes I trusted the wrong people with the information whilst I was fragile. So it always remained a sort of badly kept secret until now.
I have no plans to undergo any surgery, as I am not trans, I am non-binary. I do not want to transition to be a woman but I would prefer if those of you who know me in real life began to use my chosen name and use either gender neutral or female pronouns.
I will be discussing topics covered in this post in a bit more depth in future posts but in the mean time if you have any questions drop me a message on any of my social media and I’ll do my best to give you an answer.